As a new non-drinker, I am struggling with this, too. I don't want to lose all my friends just because they can drink and I can't. There is one friend in particular who is a bad influence on me drinking wise. I was very happy to find out that she is moving overseas in early December. Perfect. The rest of my friends I think I can keep and somehow manage to get them to realize I'm not drinking, I'm still me, and still plan on having as much fun as I did before (just without the drunkenness and stupid stuff.) Each new situation will be a challenge for me, though.