It's just so sad, isn't it? I have a male friend, a few months ago I had a crush on, until I hung out with him and realized he is in full blown enabler/martyr mode. I hope he breaks free.
The program of attraction business is hope. My room mate is struggling now, but he says things like "I need a spiritual guru in my life". He watches me work my program, and all I can do is hope and pray that he will have an awakening before it's too late.
I did. I awakened. I am so happy to read your post wanting.