Originally Posted by
takincareome 
Think of it in terms of a dance. You and your mother have a dance that you have been doing for years now. You both know the steps very well. But you have decided you want to start doing a different dance, one she doesn't know the steps to. She doesn't like that, because she wants to keep dancing with you the way you did before. But that's not working for you anymore. Her choice is HER choice, not yours. But you need to do the dance that is best for you.
I love it! I just read this to my husband and we both said how simple but profound at the same time.
Funny enough I just looked at a post about someone needing help writing a letter to her AS and whilst I was folding the washing I started to compose my letter in my head. The when I sat down I saw your post - is this my higher power that al-anon talk about? I really don't know but all signs point to a letter and a big weight has been lifted off my shoulder already.
May I run this past you guys as you all seem to know from experience
the pitfalls of such things?
