Feathers,
How do you know they told her to cut ties with everyone not in AA? Were you there when they said that? Sounds twisted up and taken out of context to me. Frequently, we hear the suggestion in NA to get rid of numbers from our using and drinking buddies and replace them with numbers from people in recovery. I've never heard it suggested to any member in a 12-step program that they cut ties with their healthy, sober friends. I have heard addicts and alcoholics (including me) tell untreated addicts and alcoholics that I can no longer spend time with them if they will continue to use/drink. But that isn't the same thing, is it?
You've made reference to this small town meeting in Georgia in more then one thread on SR. Have you ever been to this meeting yourself? Keep in mind that when we're new to recovery, sometimes we make things up to manipulate people in our lives.
Love,
KJ