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smacked 
oh the sick rationalization we go through.
I'm curious though.. is it you that this is benefitting by going into such intimate detail about your alcohol use, or is it really supposed to benefit your kiddos in some way? I don't think I'd want to know THAT much about anyone's alcohol issues if they were trying to sum up the changes in their lives etc.. I always read too much into stuff, and I've stepped out of line, I know you all will tell me lol..
Smacked - this is a great question you bring up and one that I haven't answered yet.
I think that one of the best things about the Amends process is that you do it, but only if it will not harm other people. Probably, as others have pointed out, just an "I'm sorry" is what should be said without all the detail.
The nice thing about writing things down -- and then waiting to deliver the message -- is that you can decide never to send it.
My gut tells me that I should keep the letter for a time if one of my kids is having a problem of their own, but not give it to them otherwise.
Thanks for a great point!
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