I am not sure, iwth, because I was on the other side of things -- I gave all of my power to my romantic partners, none to my family.
I think we all have our chemistry. There are various Myers-Briggs types who are more fixated on parents and other authority figures. (I'm not one of them) Jean Shinoda Bolen talks about various goddess archetypes that are more mother-oriented, family-oriented, mate-oriented in Goddesses in Every Woman. Even your enneagram type moves you in one direction or another toward your choice of authority figures.
Not everyone is interested in these kinds of things, but I'm fascinated by how I turned out the way I did, and so all of these little systems of examining our personalities have contributed something to my understanding. The more I learn, the more I stand back and look at myself and say, "Wow. What a strange, beautiful, complex little animal you are."
I hope you find the answers you seek.