Originally Posted by queenteree

And to those of you who think "I don't enable my A", you know what? I never thought I did either. I didn't make excuses for him, didn't worry about his consequences, I did exactly what Alanon suggests we do for ourselves. But I still enabled him. Know how? Did he not have roof over his head, a bed to sleep in? Was there not food in the refrigerator if and when he decided he was hungry? Yes, I didn't do his laundry either, but there was laundry detergent here when he needed to do it, right? Little things like that, that we don't consider enabling, really is.