Originally Posted by
Faith1010 
I guess the conflict I'm experiencing most is I am trapped in anger and resentment-and he wants to be friends for the sake of the kids. I can't even stomach his name on the caller ID, let alone talking and HUGGING? When he hugged me I wanted to die right there. I felt this blow to my gut like I'd just been impaled by a log.
Take that anger and start channeling it constructively. Set some very clear boundaries, such as no more just stopping by your house (I don't care what his excuse is). If he does, you don't let him in.
You have the right to feel what you are feeling, and you have the right to NOT be touched in any way, shape, or form by that man.
You have the right to start healing without interference from him!
Empower yourself. Set those boundaries.
:ghug2 :ghug2