I found (after a few times of trusting blindly and wearing blinders) that my best bet was to be supportive by showing love and letting my daughter know that I knew this wasn't easy and I had admiration for the strength it took to keep trying. I let her actions show me what was going on. As she got stronger in her recovery, her actions helped me let go of the anger because I could see that she was working on herself and making the positive changes she needed to make. At the same time, i worked on me through Naranon and coming here and the negative emotions just faded away. Just my experience.