Yea emotional blackmail is a terrible thing. It has kept me from doing the best or right thing many times. My H holds grudges against some of my family members and every time I press him to leave he talks like he will cause them trouble if I make him leave .
It hurts so bad to be able to see my life on the horizon and know that I can't reach it until I get him out of my life. I know for sure he will hurt my family in any way he can.