Originally Posted by
Bernadette 
Well, the best thing I ever did for my relationships with others was to get my own head together! By focusing on my own problems and healing myself and changing myself I put myself in the best position to have a healthy relationship or recognize one that I just need to let go....
Dear Bernadette, I think you're missing the simple fact that I am not codependent nor addicted. I don't need to focus on my own problems because I don't have any (yes, I'm rather lucky man indeed). I don't need to heal nor change myself because I don't have any problems with emotions, feelings and myself either.
The only problem for now is this relationship. And I am focused on it now.
And now I am trying to find out what can I do for this relationship to continue as well as possible and to not injure it in any way. To put the question more straightforward: what codependent person could expect from
a very close friend in such situation ?
S.