I agree that i did put myself aside for others but i thought that was the way it was suppose to be.
Teke- yeah I know. From a very young age, I was always applauded and given many accolades when I thought of others more than myself. If someone was thinking of themselves they were considered selfish.
I grew up being moulded into being a codie.... no doubt. I rear my children to think about themselves - to honor themselves- to give power to their self worth and to be authentic to others, but most importantly to live in truth themselves. My mom cringes that I teach that. She thinks that is what is wrong in this world... everyone is so bloody selfish and only thinking of themselves.
Speaking of taking a hard look at codependency - imo - where are the codependent recovery rehabs?????? Especially when trying to "fire" someone... detox someone ..... criminey!