Thumper,
Bless you for wanting to help others through the healing process too.
You may want to live with that thought for a while (a few days/weeks), and really think it through from all sides..."play the tape all the way through" as they say, and think about all of the possible outcomes. Are you in frequent contact with your cousin's kids? Are you very close?
That said......there's an awful lot of freedom to be found in addressing the roots of one's own dysfunction. You're more than welcome to explore your own healing in this safe space. We've all been there, and can offer - at the very least - a sounding board to explore your own feelings, right, wrong, or neither.
Big hugs,
GL