For me holding my tongue can be one of the hardest things to do....there are times it is bloody from biting it
. But a key for me is when those times hit
, I remind myself that the other person is also a person with emotions, feelings, and has their own devils they fight. This helps me to take a breathe and step my emotions away from the situation long enough to avoid saying something I will most likely regret at some point. It has been really useful here to at times reply to a post in a word document and sit on it for a day, that allows me time to cool down and 90% of the time I either edit the post or do not post it at all as I can realize that it comes across in a negative, non-productive way.
Thank you Carol for the constant reminders and thought provokers you post.