Hevyn,
Thank you for your kind words.
Most troubling is that my brother's problems are beginning to play on my triggers as well. The stress of it all, I guess. That's why my instinct is to go the tough love route...because I'm angry that he's endangering my recovery.
Complicating matters is that his lifestyle choices aren't congruent with my families strict moral upbringing. And so any concern or attempt to get him to see the light (with regard to his drinking) is interpreted as us just being angry at him for his sexual orientation. Which is really silly.
Anyway, we're all at our breaking point. We love him dearly despite his straying from the Church's teachings. We just want him to get better!