Originally Posted by
whyamistaying 
Don't "normal" people look into the future with their plans, dreams?
I don't know the answer to that question. I come to Sober Recovery because I missed out on taking the "normal" life a few years ago.
Now, I recognize that I can not control the future. It has to unfold like a flower. I can participate, but I can not control it. My HP is in control.
I like Alice's analogy about Thanksgiving dinner!
For myself, I have hopes and dreams for my career. I am taking steps each day to work toward my career goal. I do my job today to the best of my ability. I look for the lessons along the way. However, should my path become obstructed - I will need to stop and re-evaluate. Instead of forging ahead, I am learning to wait for the answers to come. I tried to force my will onto a job offer earlier this year. I was talking myself into that job and forcing myself into that position. When I stepped back from being in control, a different job offer landed in my lap. A much better job offer!
I still have hopes and dreams, but I'm learning to enjoy the journey along the way.