Originally Posted by anvilhead

well jealousy is an act of EGO....and entitlement. we look at others, what THEY have, or more to the point what we PERCEIVE they have and feel that we are entitled to. we lack a sense of boundaries, where WE end and the rest of the world begins, and therefore have no CENTER, no place to call home inside of ourselves, so we continually look OUTSIDE of ourselves for that sense of balance and completeness.

in relationships we try to POSSESS the other person, rather than co-exist. we become like cancerous growths that attempt to devour other healthy cells, INVADE their space and consume them. we claim others as captives. and we dare others to even try to take them away. actually we ENCOURAGE and instigate that "battle" - cuz when we "win" we feed our egos in triumph.

we often pick lousy partners......flighty, sketchy, unreliable....that assures we are always in competition for their time and attention. we want to be the PRIZE. we want them to love us SO much that they concede defeat, and hand themselves over TO us. we thrive in discord, chaos, upheaval. as we do not know how to live within ourselves, we live vicariously thru others...