What I do know is that you are right on one thing, there are two sides to every story.
When it comes to marriage I think there's a lot more to what's going on than just one person. You seem to have shared some.
My marriage? Yes, I drank, major alcoholic here, however, we're divorced, I'm sober and all the things that went on when we were married still go on as far as his "sick" behavior goes. So for anyone who can tell me "well you were drinking, what about him and his feelings?" I don't want to hear it.
That's my little vent.
If there is anything I could suggest that others already have is to give up the drinking for 30 days and see how that goes. I got sober and things haven't changed at all on the X's side. However I'm grateful that I don't have to live with his BS any more and EVERY DAY!!
If anything, for me and being sober, with my eyes wide open I can honestly say looking back that it wasn't all me. EVERYONE plays their part.
My best to you.
