Hi Tammy, change takes TIME you have to be patient and no that's not easy. I lived with a drink in my hand for over 30 yrs and had no clue how to do anything w/o a drink and didn't know who I was w/o, I couldn't imagine enjoying anything w/o that drink. Through lots of reading/counseling/prayer I gradually figured out who I was, it took 12-18 months to truly evolve and I continue to grow and I expect this new "job" of mine will take me the rest of my life. Now, just 2 yrs later I can't imagine how I managed to do anything Drunk, everything is so much better sober.