i have not gone to al-anon, just nar-anon. i can't expect them to be positive if their addicts are not recovered, so i don't blame them. i guess i want to hear "puppies & rainbows." ya know, "yes your fiance can/will get better, etc." i don't know how i'd relate to al-anon people though - my fiance really does not like alcohol and never ever abused it.
my fiance has been clean since july 21st. he is much closer to the person i knew, who is amazing and wonderful and treated me like a princess. he was the first person to treat me so amazingly well. so i know if he recovered and stuck to it, he could be amazing again.
i know longer wear my engagement ring, as i haven't had the desire to put it back on, but i do consider myself engaged still.
he has been honest about his addiction now. however, let me clarify my question. when an addict is in the middle of his addiction, can he ever be honest? i'm wondering why my fiance couldn't tell me about his addiction prior to his suicide attempt.