I am also starting to think my quacking involves:
I can't be happy because you aren't committed to change yet.
I can't be happy because you haven't quit yet.
I can't be happy because you didn't call when I wanted.
I can't be happy because you called me a name and disrespected me and I made you breakfast the next morning.
I can't concentrate at work because you make me worry about you so much.
I can't concentrate because you are sending me mixed messages.
I can't cencentrate on myself because I want you to acknowledge your behavior hurt me.
I can't concentrate on being happy because you haven't agreed to stop hurting me.
etc, etc, etc. . .