Originally Posted by
Learn2Live 
Just read the headlines and you have your answer. All the neighbors and friends who say, over and over, "I can't believe he would do such a thing. No one would ever have suspected..."
L2L you're right...i need to keep in mind the progressive nature of the disease.
sadly, in his mind, I became the one with both a drinking and violence problem! I’ll admit, the night of my blow-up I kicked him in the back of the leg as we were leaving his friend’s house. It wasn’t hard, it was just more something a fourth grader would do if angry, but I know it wasn’t right. The day had been just so horrible, and that night I had just had enough of his snide remarks and comments and put-downs in front of our friends.
Well, from that point on it was “are you sure you should be drinking tonight? I know how you get when you drink, look, you’re already kicking stuff around!”
We were heading out to a friend’s house and there was a cord on the ground that I kicked out of the way.
The man would have used ANYTHING just to put the blame on me.