Sclarke…it sounds like you’re dealing with a dangerous, volatile man. It’s these stories that make me think…maybe xabf wasn’t that bad? He was never physical with me but there was definitely an element of emotional and verbal abuse, in addition to mood swings and anger (I was just remembering last night that one time we were in the middle of a discussion and he was about to say something so I was looking at him…turns out he was about to sneeze and got angry at me because I was still looking at him while he was trying to sneeze….WTF?) and then I hear stories of people who say physical abuse slowly crept into their relationships and then I wonder…could that have happened with xabf? Does he have the capacity for physical violence?