sclarke, honey,
I read your posts and all I hear are excuses, rationalizations, and denial.
You are making excuses for this person's really bad (and criminal, by the way) behavior because you are so entrenched in his sickness.
You are more concerned that you are a "bad" writer than the fact that this guy you are probably obsessing about is a person:
(1) Who HITS women,
(2) Who the authorities in your country have judged should be removed from society for some period of time,
(3) Who learned and experienced PROFESSIONALS in a well-established field of social services have warned you about YOUR risk of bodily harm (and therefore, death), and
(4) Who is not an acceptable resident of even a HOSTEL.
Quizzically, you continue to lean on YOUR OWN judgment. Do you see that somehow you have lost your ability to reason regarding, and possibly protect yourself from, this person?
Whether you realize it or not, you actually think that slapping this obviously dangerous person is going to protect you from what you are TRULY AFRAID OF.
When are you going to TRUST those people to whom your society pays good salaries to specifically protect YOU--AND get help for yourself?
Written in love, L2L