It's very hard to tell the difference between the quacking and the "truth." You have to be very skilled (LOL) at differentiating between the two and be careful not to discount what the person inside the duck is feeling and going through. Their pain and suffering is as real as ours. After awhile (and after you've detached enough), you learn how to identify what is just drama and what is not. You learn what is denial, blame, and deflecting, and what is not. We have to also be careful not to feel sorry for them.