Hi BeachAngel,
I'm glad you're doing well.
For me, I had to learn to say 'No'. I was like you, and tried to help everyone in my path and felt like my family totally relied on me. That was so short-sighted because, by doing that, I gradually lost myself. I needed to pull way back, say No, and nurture myself. In the past, I had believed that taking care of myself was selfish, by I learned that not taking care of myself, was deadly.
And, yes, I removed a couple of family members, as well as some friends from my life. I knew it, intuitively, the moment I began my sobriety. I stepped away and didn't look back, and surprisingly, a couple of wonderful women came into my life and became friends and teachers.
Listen to your heart and take care of yourself.