You should not leave your kids to live alone with an active addict. My brother's wife is an Opiate addict too, and their kid got taken away by Child Protection. They are now having to go thru all these programs, including rehab and weekly drug screenings, to try to get their kid back. You can read the posts from addicts in recovery up on the Substance Abuse Forum. They are great people. Recovery is a life long process, and we will all pray that your wife begins recovery. Please read the stickies up on top and the 12 steps. I'm not that knowledgable about all of them, I focus on responsibility and boundaries. Keep posting!!