Thanks everyone!
I now don't feel alone, and it's really great talking to people who understand. His parents are convincing him to go into a treatment facility long-term (of course, they are not the ones left home with a child, house, full-time job and no support). I don't know if their guilting him to do it will work, or backfire. I am sitting tight and letting him make his own decisions, because only he can do this. I can't. Selfishly, I don't want him gone for that long. But, ultimately, perhaps it will help him. However, he hasn't even started the outpatient program yet. He is just not the type who would ever handle being in a place for that long. He'll literally go insane! He's a very smart guy (yes, dumb choices, but we're talking menses smart here). I just don't know what he should do - but I feel it should be his choice. Not his parents, not mine. Any suggestions?