Originally Posted by
Pelican 
"Embrace Uncertainty". If I based all my decisions on my own personal experiences, I would be living in my past. It's all I know, knew and had.
Thank you for this powerful sentence.
Along that line of thinking, I needed outside help to teach and show me how to get out of my situation. My own BEST thinking and my BEST efforts had gotten me smack dab in the middle of a nightmare. I couldn't see out of the situation and that is where places like this board, alanon, individual counseling, my lawyer, and certain books aided in my rescue of myself and my kids.