What seems to be going on in the meeting is a violation of the "What you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here". Nothing said or observed in that meeting should be shared with anyone who wasn't there. Period.
For those readers who may be new to Al-Anon and wondering what we are talking about.....
A group conscience meeting is a meeting in which participating members of an Al-Anon group get together to discuss an issue that affects them as a group. This could relate to something as small as "We need to set up a schedule for making coffee" to "We have a major procedural issue I feel we need to talk about". Looking to Al-Anon's Steps, Traditions and General Warranties offer insight on how the group should proceed in resolving the issue.
Sometimes it ain't pretty. But it is a good model for those of us who aren't used to being in rational disagreements with other folks over stuff that is important to us to work out their differences.
Remember, recovery comes first. Guidelines such as those set up by the Al-Anon World Conference allow all of us to be participating members and don't let anyone's personal agenda hijack a meeting. Maybe sit down and write out your concerns so you know what you want to say, revise and revise and then request a discussion?
These ego-type things do seem to occur more often in AA meetings, in my experience. Maybe you could post this problem in the AA forum and see if you get some better advice?