It feels great. I found beer hidden behind a tree and I didn't even get mad. The "old" me would have stewed about it all day.
The first few times I practiced being non-codependent was weird. I remember having to tell my mom that I didn't pick AH from the bus stop or that I didn't return the atty call. Now, I don't have to tell anyone. I'm just doing it. It feels really good.
AH is trying to pick fights though on a daily basis. ABout how much he does for me, ect. I am just letting it roll off and not engaging in a fight.
Mind you, I'm not perfect. By far. But I sure wish I had found this site many months ago. It would have saved me so much money. I wouldn't have agreed to attys and rehab and a host of other things believing he wanted to change. But I'm smarter now. (Not smart enough to leave yet obviously), but I still think I am smarter.
Thanks everyone.