This is generalizing to other areas of my life
After reading Codependent No More, I'm really trying to apply it. It's getting a bit easier and I did it 2x again this week when AH wanted me to (yet again) supply info to his atty. Didn't do it.
Anyways, learning to take care of myself and not control others or things I can't control has generalized to other relationships. It is so freeing. Before, I would have assumed their problem as if it was my own and I find myself no longer doing that. Listening, being there for support, but not obsessing and realizing there is nothing I can do to make it better.
It is not that I don't care, but I'm not getting "involved" so to speak. Hope that makes sense.
Thanks everyone. I'm learning and reading and growing every day!!!