His last advice was, he needs HELP and he has to find it HIMSELF.
Yup! I have found my greatest advice has come from a lot of RA's on this site! And a few from my Al-Anon meeting. The insight they give IMHO is something we already know in our heart of hearts however I guess coming from them it sinks in a bit better?!
He needs to find help himself just like you or anyone for that matter needs to find it for themselves too. We want to just "Fix" everyone and have them be the way we want them to be so that things will be good. What really needs to be good is ourselves-it takes time but I have found that wasting my energy on others took a lot away from myself and what I needed to "Fix" within me.
you are traveling in the right direction keep moving forward and know there is a lot of people behind you to help support your journey!