Originally Posted by
hotcheeto 
He gets kind of aggressive (not abusive just his demeanor changes).... Screaming, crying, yelling, cursing, calling me names and I can't take it.
Hotcheeto,
I hope you will read the stickies on verbal and emotional abuse. It was a major "aha" moment for me when I realized how much "minimizing" I had been doing in regard to my xabf's behavior. I had honestly come to think his way of "communicating" was normal, and I was starting to react to him in the same ways - abusing him back! It wasn't until I did some reading on verbal abuse that I started noticing, gee, none of my friends or family treat me like this.... nor would I put up with them for even a second if they did.
Best,
at2