Originally Posted by
DontBurnThePig 
I'm not rationalizing the abuse....I'm just thinking that if he could kick the habit, then he won't be abusive anymore either. I love him to death...I don't want to lose him.
I think I just want him to be better more than he wants it.
This a called a relationship by "wishful thinking".
He's doing what addicts do and you have a front row seat to it. Sometimes you are required to participate, too.
Only you can decide when you have had enough drama and chaos, or not.
You did not cause this. You cannot control this. And you most definitely cannot cure this.
He is going to have to find his own " rock bottom". That's unlikely to happen on you couch.
Addiction and domestic violence are progressive conditions.