Originally Posted by
DontBurnThePig 
The thing is...the only times he has been "abusive" to me was when he was drunk or on drugs.
He's never like that sober.
Are you rationalizing his abuse?
For crying out loud, the guy was in jail for 29 days for domestic violence against you and here is is, back in your home, high as a kite.
Is this acceptable to you? Is the sobriety fairy going to descend and make it all better?
I don't know you, but I do know you deserve to treat yourself better than you are doing.