We all arrived here in deep crisis, just like you, cheeto.
And few of us even had a clue what to do next....what to do FIRST....
Smacked has a good idea. Why not pick one thing - small thing, big thing, doesn't matter - and start there?
I too would choose "don't come to my house," but that's pretty big. My house is my sanctuary, and if I don't have sanctuary, I feel obliged to stay out there in the madness.
Smaller...some have chosen to always let calls go to voicemail, then force themselves to wait at least a few minutes (the longer the better) before giving in to listening to them.
And reading Stickies and Codependent No More counts too
One small step in the right direction will help you to start regaining your strength, and getting your life back.
Good luck
P.S. here are two of my favorites:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...oundaries.html http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...etting-go.html