I've been to MANY an AA meeting, when I dated a recovering alcoholic for a year. And I have a friend who's been sober for 2 yrs and working the program-we just discussed this very topic TODAY even.
Relationships within the first year of sobriety are frowned upon, and not recommended. Of course, no one can make anyone do anything. I'm just saying, someone who was working the program would've heard this at some point or another.
There are many cases that prove this to be true, just like the OP's case.
Originally Posted by
dgillz 
I think you have the question backwards, IMHO it should be "can an alcoholic date a drinker?"
That stuff about no relationships is BS. What it says is no major changes in the first year. This philosophy by the way, is not in any AA literature anywhere, but it is prevalent in rehab and AA rooms.