When I first started going to AA I wasn't ready to admit I was an alcoholic (I was just a 'problem drinker', lol), and I was adamantly opposed to doing 'the steps'.
In other words - I was in denial and I had 'an attitude'.
Everyone just kept saying, "Keep coming back".
I couldn't find anything to argue with about that, so I kept going back.
Today, the AA program and the 12 steps have changed my life 100%, I'm a believer!
I just needed to keep going back more times in order to get the message.
Regardless of what anyone thinks, and regardless of any arguments, there are no other requirements for membership today other than: a desire to stop drinking.
Worked for me when nothing else was working!
I like to see everyone that even thinks they might need to be there welcomed openly.