Givelove,
Thanks for the reply and the encouragement. It may be that the answer if for us to go our separate ways and if in the future, we find our way back when we are both in a healthier place, then so be it.
It is made harder and more complicated by the fact she has kids, and for the last 18 months, as she slid further into her addiction, I have been taking care of them full time. She is in not capable right now of caring for them and none of her family members or the members of the bio-dad are in a position to care for them as well.
I am struggling with how I go my separate way and still take care of those kids. None of this is their fault. And, for me, putting them in the foster care system is just not an option.
Time for more prayer.