I went to a bachelorette party a couple of months ago - it was at a friend's house, then everyone went to the bar. The gal who was getting married is a friend in recovery, and I was the only one besides her not drinking. This was the first time I had been in a bar since my first meeting 8 years ago - and had the friend not been a close one, ,there is no way I would have gone.
If you decide that a sober lifestyle is what you desire, you will find yourself facing many situations like the bachelorette party. Birthdays, Christmas and Thanksgiving were my big triggers. I found that if I protected my sobriety at whatever the cost - even if it meant bowing out of certain 'obligations' or leaving early (taking my own car so I wasn't trapped) - these and many other situations became doable.
It's a lot to take in, I know. Feel free to share your thoughts and feelings about this here. Many of us have been in your shoes and understand.