Originally Posted by
mentallyexh 
When we talked I ONLY talked about alcohol being the problem and he attacked everyother part of me.....I KNOW I can't walk on egg shells forever, and hold my breath that maybe he won't get angry this time.
Alcohol is only a symptom of the problem. Alcohol was my solution for years because I was so uncomfortable in my own skin that I never could stand it for long.
Just abstaining from alcohol isn't the solution. For me, it's a threefold solution-physical, emotional, and spiritual. Otherwise I am nothing more than a miserable dry drunk.
Spouses have the mistaken idea that if their A stops drinking, then everything would be okay. That is not the case.
Alcohol isn't the problem, it's the A's solution.