Hi Hope,
Right now I am taking time off from relationships to focus on me and why I pick certain men who are not the best partners. It is lonely, but I am finding out lots about myself so hopefully when I am ready to date again I will select healthier people.
I saw a therapist for about 6 months, attended al anon and continue to post here. In addition I read books helpful to people involved with unhealthy relationships. For me it is about 8-9 months without the ex and I struggle with certain things, but keep moving somewhere. Time is not a cure all, but it really does help with perspective on many things.
Miss