Yup-you know where you stand. Just like me, when my abf promised to be sober for a month, then told me after only 3 weeks, he wanted to go to the bar because it was July 4th. I said, fine, you can drink if you want, but my original condition was, I'm out of your life if you can't do this.
He basically said, "adios".
It's a cr*ppy feeling to be thrown off for a drug or alcohol, but after spending a lot of time on this forum and doing much soul-searching, I understand so much better why he did it. He really had no choice. Until he gets into recovery-and he is very far from that-he will never choose me or any healthy rel'ship over drinking.
He had no choice and, for my own self-respect and mental health, neither did I. I had to do what I promised I would and get out of his life for good.