but these past few days have got me thinking for the first time in my life I need to put me first.
with this kind of thinking as your guide things WILL get better for you!
sorry to hear about your situation- but glad you found SR. The best thing I learned in relation to my A loved ones was to let them fall - let all the consequences of their choices and their addiction fall on their own heads. I can still love them, yes, but I do not ever want to enable their addiction ever again.
good luck ncraft - keep seeking and accepting help - the only person you can save tin this situation is you!
peace-
b