For me least, when I started all this I had no HP at all - turning it over in recovery terms meant for me realising it wasn't all up to me. I wasn't responsible for everything.
I used to think if I didn't do it, it most likely wouldn't get done - or not properly at any rate. And the stress of that - the self imposed stress - kept me drunk for many years.
Letting go of all that helped me in my recovery. I do what I can, then I ask for help on the things I need to do, but can't manage alone.
And I let others deal with their issues. That's their learning curve - I have my own.
I saw that things really did still turn out - and I was freed up and able to focus fully on the responsibilities that really were mine to fulfill.
At least that's the plan LOL - I still 'revert' from time to time, but I'm workin' on it
And, in my case, even tho I started this as a hardened secular cynic, in the course of my journey and 'letting go', 'letting things be' - I did rediscover my faith
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