I have trouble believing a HP has time for me, or that I have a right to ask for things too honey. I practice with my child first. She was the first thing I "let go". The girls on the codie thread helped me to realize that my daughter is loved by God. She has her own path in life, and I can't change it or take it away from her.
Maybe if you start the focus believing your HP is looking after your kids because the are beautiful to the universe, it will open a door for you as well.
I also look for the signs that something greater than myself is at work here. This weekend a saw a million stars in the sky, and it was so amazing it brought me to tears.