My daughter was out there for a long time before she was finally ready to try and live a clean life. She has been clean for 13 months, but I had to find a way to totally let go until she got to the point of desperation. She was with another addict whose mother totally enabled their lifestyle. I, on the other hand, refused to enable the addiction. When my daughter got clean she told me that she felt sorry for her boyfriend because his mother just accepted his addiction while I refused to be part of it. When she wanted to get clean she said she knew that I would support her recovery and I have. So hang tough. When your son is ready for recovery he will know where he can turn for support. Hugs, Marle