Welcome! One of the most comforting things I have gotten from SR is to know that I am not alone in this fight, and neither are you! I am in a lot of the same situation you are with my wife. She still drinks, not a lot, but when she does it is so hard for me not to join in. I can just see a beer or bottle and it is like a trigger for me and it is so hard not to drink. I just keep thinking I don't want to go through detox again.......that really sucks.
Everyday I fight and the place really helps. Contact me if you ever need to talk, chat, whatever. You can do this!