Daisy......your post reminded me. Things are easier, and it seems so opposite of what I expected. STBXAH got really ticked off that he would come over after he moved out and the house was clean. When he was here I couldn't get a darn thing done. Now, being a single parent of 4, I manage to get up and make my bed every morning (something I never did), keep the house picked up, dishes done, laundry caught up, bills paid, meals planned weekly with grocery shopping according to the ads to save money, yard mowed and weeded, and on and on......no wonder he's a little miffed.
When I look at all I am doing now I should be exhausted. I have more energy than ever. I know I was depressed, and who wouldn't be. Now I have moments of sadness, anger, hurt. I feel those feelings instead of stuffing them and move on to the next task at hand. As painful as it was to leave, for me it's been a fraction of the pain I felt staying.